I don’t know who originally wrote this, but it occasionally makes the rounds on the feminist pages I follow and it’s a little maddening:
Inevitably, I end up commenting with something to this effect:
And you will also find a safe and effective way to continue the pregnancy on her behalf, as she shouldn’t have to contend with all of the pregnancy-related issues she and her body may go through if she does not want to continue with the pregnancy herself.
There is no good, legitimate reason in the world that someone should have to continue with a pregnancy they don’t want to to continue with. Ever.
If someone who is pregnant wants to see a pregnancy through and give the baby up for adoption, fine. But forcing or in any way coercing someone to see a pregnancy through when they don’t want to is completely immoral and potentially damaging.
Whilst pregnancy is generally safe, there can be a number of complications that come along with it, including (but certainly not limited to): hyperemesis gravidarum, preeclampsia, gestational diabetes, edema, placenta previa, oligohydramnios, premature labour and birth, hemorrhoids, hemorrhage, and so on. (Not sure what some of those terms mean? Google ’em.) Not to even mention the mental and emotional impacts of being an incubator for a fetus you do not want to be carrying.
Never mind that child birth is no walk in the park.
Telling someone who does not want to remain pregnant that you will take care of and responsibility for the resulting baby does nothing except add more guilt and other stress to an already extremely difficult decision.
Being pro-choice isn’t about being pro-abortion (no one is “pro-abortion”), it’s about understanding that each individual is entitled to make their own decision about what’s best for them and their body.
So, the next time you’re thinking about protesting outside a clinic that provides abortions, my advice would be: just don’t.